Remembrance

In the midst of the work,
Something suddenly reminds me of you;
I pause a moment and smile,
Yeah, I do miss you!

I miss the long conversations,
The midnight “I can’t sleep” talks;
Me talking all nonsense,
And you putting up with it all!

Your thoughtful gestures,
And the caring thoughts;
The diversions you created,
Just to make me forget it all.

You were right, life does not stop,
And I am sure you too have moved on;
But somewhere deep down my friend,
You’ll stay, You’ll never be gone!

Someday, I wish, I’ll get a call,
Hey it’s me! and that’d be all;
We’ll go back to the friends we were,
And that’ll be a start for another fall!

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Some Positive Thoughts

Smile Please!

These are some quick one-line thoughts on life that I penned down. Are they philosophical? Sure, you would think it’s all philosophy. But then to me, it’s what I think and what I am trying to practice or incorporate in my life to bring in more positivity.

  1. If your journey is not joyful, the end is never going to be happy.
  2. If you keep waiting for the right time, the right person, the right thing; you’ll be waiting right till the end.
  3. Don’t let your past and future steal your present.
  4. Give your love to everyone and everything around you, but start with yourself first.
  5. Always make time to do what makes you happy, you have to do the rest anyways.
  6. Practice a hobby, a passion such that it has the power to transport you into another world.
  7. Obstacles are just temporary, you are eternal.
  8. Believe in something stronger than you, God, or some higher power. Know that it always has your back. Always.
  9. When in doubt, just do it. You will never know unless you try.
  10. Trust your gut instinct. If it feels right, it probably is.
  11. When in trouble, reach out to people around you. You might find just the right person to help you.
  12. You are bound to make mistakes and it is ok to make them, as long as it helps you grow.
  13. Stop judging people and stop judging yourself.
  14. Avoid doing things which you know will cause you harm or sadness in the end. Why put yourself through hell? Isn’t there already enough around?
  15. You cannot be happy perpetually. But accepting that you are sad is the first step towards happiness.
  16. Smile often even at the strangers, laugh out loud; we all could do with some more reasons to be happy.

Let me know what do you think? Which one resonates the most with you. Or just feel free to add any of your thoughts!

Don’t Lust, Grow!

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A thousand suns are still insufficient for the insatiable minds.

Isn’t that true? When all we want is more and more, we can never be satisfied. But is it wrong to ask for more? It’s that a way of moving ahead in your life? We don’t want stagnation in our lives. All of us want to grow, be in a better place, have a better life.

So why asking for more is wrong? Or is it?

Getting straight to the point, I think it is not wrong to ask for more. We are all here to experience different thing, to learn, to grow, to mature. So being on a quest for more is normal. But what kills the spirit is while always trying to grow, we forget to enjoy what we have.

Looking at other people’s castles, we cannot stamp on our own houses.

Remember, each one of us has a different journey, a unique one. We meet people on our way. They become our friends, our partners, our supporters, our well-wishers. But all of us have to carve our own growth chart.

Just because Dubai sounds like such an amazing city and she lives in it, I bet, she is living the life to the fullest – enjoying. Oh my God! – she must be so happy there. I too want to go there. Have that life she is living.

Well, Hold your horses. One thing I have realized is – no matter where you stay or what you do, you always have similar struggles to face. Because you are still you. You just cannot run away from problems. They are there for a reason. They want you to learn. They want you to grow. They are your stepping stones to success!

So, growth, to me is internal – where you learn to overcome your problems, expand your mindset, where you grow as a person. Sure, materialism is necessary too. But that will always be overshadowed by personal growth.

So next time, if you see someone’s sparkling dazzling life, calm down. Don’t lust after it. Appreciate what you got. Work towards your goals. Slowly but steadily, you will get what you want.

Remember, in the end, even the waves of the great oceans cannot hasten their pace!

 

Break That Pattern – Part 1

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Today I want to tell you a story – Story of a girl who was beautiful, strong, talented and Miss perfectionist!

She was 14 years old. Always a topper in the class. Any extra-curricular activity and she was the first to participate. The ideal student. All the teachers loved her. One would think she will grow into someone talented and successful women.

But only little did they know what the fate has.

At home, she had to look after all her siblings – cook, clean and is only then allowed to go to school. Any small mistake, and she was blamed, humiliated. Always made to feel that it was her fault. She was responsible for the whole household chores from that tiny age.

Imagine the age when we all are studying, throwing tantrums, playing, getting things we wanted and she was there at home working and making sure she doesn’t get scolded.

To make matters worse, she wasn’t allowed to attend college citing that no need to study. Sit at home and look after your brothers and sisters. And finally, when the time came, she was married off to some guy who she didn’t even like. She protested. But all she heard was – this is it. You have no other option.

Well, let’s just say that guy turned out to be an asshole. Doing things he liked and when pointed out, the blame automatically went to his wife. And the bigger point was people actually believed. Yeah – She is the one who wants all that, she is the one who made him do. She was too scared to fight back and endured all in silence.

Little by little her confidence was chipped away. All her self-respect lost. All she had was self-doubt.

Imagine – all her dreams, her abilities, her talents – all washed away.

To this date, if something happens – It might just not be her fault at all – in no way and yet she automatically starts taking the blame on herself. Getting angry about things which don’t matter. Fed up of everyone constantly blaming her for everything.

Sometimes you’d be surprised – where the hell did that come from? I never did blame her for anything. But you don’t realize what’s the back story is.

Well, we all do have similar traits, some patterns which we assume automatically – it can be anything – taking blames, fear of loss, running away or simply being always late! Sure it is said history repeats itself – but let circumstances define that – not you.

A lot of us just assume things in our mind rather than seeking the truth. Making our own conclusions. Living in that same bubble. I’d really say – stop and think. Seek the truth – and who knows you might just be completely wrong!

The good times are out there – waiting for you if only you let go!

PS: Wait for the next post to know how to break free!

 

Friends are forever

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Friends – we all have them. They are like our extended family, sometimes extended part of ourselves! With them, we can be as crazy as we like and still be counted sane!

They are the people whom we share our every secret, every joy and sadness. We have fights, we patch-up, we talk about our crushes and we bitch about our enemies. It’s like an all in one package!

And then – as we start growing up – from school to college and from college onwards, we start losing contact. No matter, how close we were or how many promises we made to always be close – we never can hold them. Everyone starts being busy in their own life – in the race to earn money, to get married and settled.

We have to make plans to keep in touch with your friends. The everyday calls that we made to share every teeny-tiny detail become once in a month call. We have to schedule a meeting to catch up when there were times we used to just drop into their homes unannounced! You start to drift apart.

And now when you are stuck in bad times, you sit and cry alone – thinking you have no one to turn to, you are lonely and you need to talk to someone. You literally scroll your contact list and end up calling no one. You feel everyone is busy in their lives handling their own problems. You just don’t want to add to their burdens.

At this point, I want to tell you how completely wrong you are! Remember, they have been your friends through thick and thin – through all those heartbreaks and disappointments. All you need to do is just reach out to them.

Sure, They are busy in their lives. But that doesn’t mean that they will ignore you! They might take some time to respond back. But be assured – they always have your back!

Like its said – “It’s times like these when you come to know who your true friends are!”

I always thought I understood this sentence – until when I was in a situation that made me realize how true this is. Now having lived it, I can truly connect!

So guys – just reach out to your friends – tell them how much they mean to you and how much you miss them. Call them often. Ask them how their day was, ask them how their life is going.

Like I always say – these small things matter a lot! And these little things will rekindle your friendship.

Remember – your time is the best gift you can ever give!

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Have a Magical Day – Every Day!

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Life is never one smooth journey. There are always ups and downs in life. Everyone has both good and bad phases in life. The good phases make happy memories. The bad phases obliviate them!!

“Everything happens for a good reason” or “God / Universe always has your back”.

In my mind, I always think – are these just words people say to comfort us or is it part of a giant plan which ultimately leads to happiness? In any case, don’t these words somehow feel so empty and fake when we are grieving?

“Bad times show who your true friends are” or “bad times bring out the best in you”.

All that people say is bullshit. It’s like there is nothing else left and nothing matters anymore. No amount of comforting words can pierce our sorrows. We are drowning in our own sea of melancholy – deeper and deeper and getting obsessed with it.

We become blind to all the good things around us and focus only on the things that we lost – suddenly we start to remember every sad thing that ever happened! I say blind, oblivious, partial – because the good things are always there – they have always been there. We just stop noticing them.

Do we really want to come out of this stupid pit of endless sorrow and self-pity that we have fallen into? Hell yes! Do we know how?? Ummm… Not really.

Here’s a very simple and straightforward way to it – Just shift your focus! Become blind to the sorrows and concentrate on the good things – NOW! That’s a simple and effective way to remain happy. Focus on that friend who is always there for you, that book which can make you travel in time, that happy memory that brings the smile to your face!

In fact, you don’t even have to imagine anything. Just look around! Be in the present – there are so many things you take for granted – the bed we sleep in, the food we eat, the amazing people in our lives, the job we still have, or simply our heartbeats.

By the way, did you notice the amazing dress that your colleague has worn today? Go, go – compliment her!

I strongly believe – it’s the small little things like these in life that matter the most – a stranger’s smile, a compliment, a child’s laughter, a helping hand, random call from your friends, a good laugh over a small joke – it can make your day!

Just being in the present – really opening our eyes, looking at the things around us, being grateful for things we still have! – It’s amazing how it can pull you out of your sorrows and magically make your day!

So, let’s have a magical day – every day!

Be happy today and always! – You deserve it!