Friends

They put you down,
They lift you up;
They turn you around,
And make you a clown.

They embarrass you,
And put you in trouble;
Make fun of you,
And burst your little bubble.

They make you laugh,
They make you cry;
They understand your heart,
Even when your eyes are dry.

They support you,
Through thick and thin;
And have your back;
Even when you are on a spin.

Such friends are rare in life,
Treasure them through all the fights;
But always keeping irritating them,
Hell ya! That’s your birth right!

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Let them go!

All of us have encountered at least one such person in our life who was really special for us before they turned into complete strangers. It could be a special relation or just a dear friend. We feel like they have just turned their backs and left us broken. We feel that we are in this dark place from where we will never come out. We try to go back to them, plead them, but suddenly they have turned into stone – nothing works.

I know it is really a difficult time and any advice given just feels like nonsense. But pause. And think. There are more than 7.5 Billion people on Earth and we are still stuck with this one – who doesn’t even acknowledge your presence anymore. Is it really worth losing your self respect and your time?

We all are under this false sense of security that we will wake up tomorrow. We all end up wasting our time and energy over things which doesn’t even matter. Spending so much time and energy for this person – is it really worth?

Focus on yourself!

May be that person is actually worth it, maybe not! But I am pretty sure, more often than not, it is better to move on. If you really matter to her/him, she/he will definitely come back. Why not spend your time doing something worthwhile in the meantime?

Go out with your friends, learn something new, meditate, travel, go on a vacation, meet new people, help someone, concentrate on things that really matter to you right now – and it’s definitely not her/him. It’s time for self-development and self-love!

A lot of people become so engrossed in their past, their sorrows that they are unable to see the opportunity standing right in front of them. So just remove these dark lenses and see the now – it’s all right there for you – all that you ever wanted.

I strongly believe that life is made up of different experiences. And each of them is different. Everyday is a new day. This was just one of so many! So just keep looking forward to more these amazing experiences, keep looking forward to life. You never know when things might just click for you.

In the meantime, full concentrate on yourself – the single most important person in your life who matters the most!

Break That Pattern – Part 1

Change

Today I want to tell you a story – Story of a girl who was beautiful, strong, talented and Miss perfectionist!

She was 14 years old. Always a topper in the class. Any extra-curricular activity and she was the first to participate. The ideal student. All the teachers loved her. One would think she will grow into someone talented and successful women.

But only little did they know what the fate has.

At home, she had to look after all her siblings – cook, clean and is only then allowed to go to school. Any small mistake, and she was blamed, humiliated. Always made to feel that it was her fault. She was responsible for the whole household chores from that tiny age.

Imagine the age when we all are studying, throwing tantrums, playing, getting things we wanted and she was there at home working and making sure she doesn’t get scolded.

To make matters worse, she wasn’t allowed to attend college citing that no need to study. Sit at home and look after your brothers and sisters. And finally, when the time came, she was married off to some guy who she didn’t even like. She protested. But all she heard was – this is it. You have no other option.

Well, let’s just say that guy turned out to be an asshole. Doing things he liked and when pointed out, the blame automatically went to his wife. And the bigger point was people actually believed. Yeah – She is the one who wants all that, she is the one who made him do. She was too scared to fight back and endured all in silence.

Little by little her confidence was chipped away. All her self-respect lost. All she had was self-doubt.

Imagine – all her dreams, her abilities, her talents – all washed away.

To this date, if something happens – It might just not be her fault at all – in no way and yet she automatically starts taking the blame on herself. Getting angry about things which don’t matter. Fed up of everyone constantly blaming her for everything.

Sometimes you’d be surprised – where the hell did that come from? I never did blame her for anything. But you don’t realize what’s the back story is.

Well, we all do have similar traits, some patterns which we assume automatically – it can be anything – taking blames, fear of loss, running away or simply being always late! Sure it is said history repeats itself – but let circumstances define that – not you.

A lot of us just assume things in our mind rather than seeking the truth. Making our own conclusions. Living in that same bubble. I’d really say – stop and think. Seek the truth – and who knows you might just be completely wrong!

The good times are out there – waiting for you if only you let go!

PS: Wait for the next post to know how to break free!

 

Friends are forever

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Friends – we all have them. They are like our extended family, sometimes extended part of ourselves! With them, we can be as crazy as we like and still be counted sane!

They are the people whom we share our every secret, every joy and sadness. We have fights, we patch-up, we talk about our crushes and we bitch about our enemies. It’s like an all in one package!

And then – as we start growing up – from school to college and from college onwards, we start losing contact. No matter, how close we were or how many promises we made to always be close – we never can hold them. Everyone starts being busy in their own life – in the race to earn money, to get married and settled.

We have to make plans to keep in touch with your friends. The everyday calls that we made to share every teeny-tiny detail become once in a month call. We have to schedule a meeting to catch up when there were times we used to just drop into their homes unannounced! You start to drift apart.

And now when you are stuck in bad times, you sit and cry alone – thinking you have no one to turn to, you are lonely and you need to talk to someone. You literally scroll your contact list and end up calling no one. You feel everyone is busy in their lives handling their own problems. You just don’t want to add to their burdens.

At this point, I want to tell you how completely wrong you are! Remember, they have been your friends through thick and thin – through all those heartbreaks and disappointments. All you need to do is just reach out to them.

Sure, They are busy in their lives. But that doesn’t mean that they will ignore you! They might take some time to respond back. But be assured – they always have your back!

Like its said – “It’s times like these when you come to know who your true friends are!”

I always thought I understood this sentence – until when I was in a situation that made me realize how true this is. Now having lived it, I can truly connect!

So guys – just reach out to your friends – tell them how much they mean to you and how much you miss them. Call them often. Ask them how their day was, ask them how their life is going.

Like I always say – these small things matter a lot! And these little things will rekindle your friendship.

Remember – your time is the best gift you can ever give!

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