“Oh, it’s not really his fault”, “It’s ok buddy no worries” or “That’s alright. I completely understand why you did what you did”.
We all have said this to a lot of people. We all have forgiven other people for their mistakes, for the hurt that they have caused us. We always give other people a second chance, no matter how badly they screw up.
“Hey, you are strong enough to face this!”, “It wasn’t really your fault” or “Don’t beat yourself up so much.”
We always give such encouraging advice to others. We always try to boost their morale. We always try to make people see that they aren’t really as bad as they think they are!
But what happens to all these talks when it come to ourselves?
“Oh, I am not really that person!”, “How could I have ever done/said that?” or “I can never forgive myself for this!”
How many of us hold on to our own mistakes? How many of us still ponder on all the wrongs we think we have done? How many of us still beat ourselves every waking hour thinking we are no good?
Wake up! It’s time!
It’s time to stop beating ourselves up. It’s ok if in past we couldn’t meet the standards of who we think we are. It’s ok if we messed things us. Stop judging yourself.
Only God is perfect. And you are only Human! You are allowed to make mistakes. You are allowed to mess up things. This is how you learn!
The important thing is “what next?”. The important thing is to focus on what’s coming. Remember, the present-you is the result of what you did in the past. So the future-you will be what you do now!
So, stop running back to the mistakes and criticizing yourself. It’s time to take the corrective actions. To make the real difference.
Start by forgiving yourself, accepting yourself for who you are – this will make you feel so much light and remove all the guilt that you have been carrying around. It is the first step for changing yourself for the better. Own up your mistakes. Learn from them. Be proud of them.
Take care of your self. Take time out for things that makes you happy. Make yourself the priority. Learn to say no. Start talking to yourself, forgiving yourself and encouraging yourself like you do for others.
Put yourself first! It’s not mean. It’s not selfish. It’s called self-love. And it is the single most important thing you should really invest in. This is how you heal. And healing is necessary!
Remember, if judging others is offensive, then judging yourself is downright criminal!