Stop Judging…. Yourself!

“Oh, it’s not really his fault”, “It’s ok buddy no worries” or “That’s alright. I completely understand why you did what you did”.

We all have said this to a lot of people. We all have forgiven other people for their mistakes, for the hurt that they have caused us. We always give other people a second chance, no matter how badly they screw up.

“Hey, you are strong enough to face this!”, “It wasn’t really your fault” or “Don’t beat yourself up so much.”

We always give such encouraging advice to others. We always try to boost their morale. We always try to make people see that they aren’t really as bad as they think they are!

But what happens to all these talks when it come to ourselves?

“Oh, I am not really that person!”, “How could I have ever done/said that?” or “I can never forgive myself for this!”

How many of us hold on to our own mistakes? How many of us still ponder on all the wrongs we think we have done? How many of us still beat ourselves every waking hour thinking we are no good?

Wake up! It’s time!

It’s time to stop beating ourselves up. It’s ok if in past we couldn’t meet the standards of who we think we are. It’s ok if we messed things us. Stop judging yourself.

Only God is perfect. And you are only Human! You are allowed to make mistakes. You are allowed to mess up things. This is how you learn!

The important thing is “what next?”. The important thing is to focus on what’s coming. Remember, the present-you is the result of what you did in the past. So the future-you will be what you do now!

So, stop running back to the mistakes and criticizing yourself. It’s time to take the corrective actions. To make the real difference.

Start by forgiving yourself, accepting yourself for who you are – this will make you feel so much light and remove all the guilt that you have been carrying around. It is the first step for changing yourself for the better. Own up your mistakes. Learn from them. Be proud of them.

Take care of your self. Take time out for things that makes you happy. Make yourself the priority. Learn to say no. Start talking to yourself, forgiving yourself and encouraging yourself like you do for others.

Put yourself first! It’s not mean. It’s not selfish. It’s called self-love. And it is the single most important thing you should really invest in. This is how you heal. And healing is necessary!

Remember, if judging others is offensive, then judging yourself is downright criminal!

Advertisements

Some Positive Thoughts

Smile Please!

These are some quick one-line thoughts on life that I penned down. Are they philosophical? Sure, you would think it’s all philosophy. But then to me, it’s what I think and what I am trying to practice or incorporate in my life to bring in more positivity.

  1. If your journey is not joyful, the end is never going to be happy.
  2. If you keep waiting for the right time, the right person, the right thing; you’ll be waiting right till the end.
  3. Don’t let your past and future steal your present.
  4. Give your love to everyone and everything around you, but start with yourself first.
  5. Always make time to do what makes you happy, you have to do the rest anyways.
  6. Practice a hobby, a passion such that it has the power to transport you into another world.
  7. Obstacles are just temporary, you are eternal.
  8. Believe in something stronger than you, God, or some higher power. Know that it always has your back. Always.
  9. When in doubt, just do it. You will never know unless you try.
  10. Trust your gut instinct. If it feels right, it probably is.
  11. When in trouble, reach out to people around you. You might find just the right person to help you.
  12. You are bound to make mistakes and it is ok to make them, as long as it helps you grow.
  13. Stop judging people and stop judging yourself.
  14. Avoid doing things which you know will cause you harm or sadness in the end. Why put yourself through hell? Isn’t there already enough around?
  15. You cannot be happy perpetually. But accepting that you are sad is the first step towards happiness.
  16. Smile often even at the strangers, laugh out loud; we all could do with some more reasons to be happy.

Let me know what do you think? Which one resonates the most with you. Or just feel free to add any of your thoughts!